Anxious Attachment

I had a dream I was losing a tooth. It was loose, not fallen yet. But, it was getting there. I had a fear of loosing it. Bingo A fear of losing my old way of thinking, what kept me "safe". What was familiar. I am changing. I am growing. But, I'm not quite there yet. I have more work to do. I still hold on to that pattern, not fully, but I have one hand holding on. Elizabeth said George has signs of anxious attachment so I looked it up later and there it was. All the signs starting making sense. The wanting me to respond right away, the are you bored?, the videos so early, the songs so early. But, I have to remember it's the need for connection, not love for me. It would hav been challenging since I am so independent, but part of me wants so bad to comfort him and fix him. To make him feel better and encourage him to get help and understand his pattern. But, he's 53 and doesn't feel like he needs a psychologist and vapes for anxiety. He's also strong though. And smart. Which intrigues me, but no Anni, this is your old pattern. He reminds you of you. Pushing through pain. He's not your problem to fix. Let go. And let's find out more which one I am. I am growing, I am releasing old patterns, I am making space, I am changing for the better. Just sit with that for a moment, and trust the process. Trust that he will walk into my life soon. He will find me. 

I'm grateful for...

- life

- hope to find a secure partner and true love

- being able to ride this weekend

- friends and family 

- the work I have done this week on myself - proud of me

- my health physically, mentally, and emotionally 


Teeth falling out dreams represent shedding old beliefs, detrimental habits, or aspects of yourself. Many spiritual teachers see these dreams as positive signs of growth.

Your dream might be telling you it's time to:

  • Let go of old ways of thinking
  • Release habits that don't serve you
  • Make space for new spiritual insights
  • Trust the process of personal change

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