The Uphill

It's 5:40 and I've been up since 5. I am on an uphill. I had an emotional week, I had my period, I am sick. I feel emotional because I had and lost what I thought was love. George. Sergio. Hope. It was just hope that I lost, nothing else. I miss it, the texting, the i'm thinking of you, the phone conversations, the voice notes. I miss it all. Maybe it's just the distraction I miss. He was kind. He kept me busy. I miss that more than anything. But, it's over now. I will need to move on. I need to be kind to myself today. It will be hard because I am not riding. I am spending time with myself recovering. So, I need to be good to myself. Cherish this moment. It's a day off. Enjoy the quiet, read, talk to friends, relax. Because this is just an uphill. That's all it is. You will find love. You will find someone who you have chemistry with, who cares about you, who shares your values and hobbies. You will find him. Maybe I got sick as a sign to slow down. Breathe. It will be ok. 

I'm thankful for...

- Hope to find love 

- My health physically, mentally, and emotionally

- Friends like Jenny and Fer 

- Patty 


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